Sunday, March 08, 2009

Select quotes from what he must be...if he wants to marry my daughter


Almost every page had a notable quote but here are a few of my favorites from Voddie Baucham...

Marriage as the preferred state

“…every man should look toward marriage unless and until the Lord shows him that he has been gifted for and called to a life of singleness.” (p. 42)

Men and women have complementary, not identical roles

“This is a delicate balance that can be difficult to achieve. Nevertheless, if our desire is to obey the Lord and bring Him glory, we must seek this balance” (p. 99)

Male Headship


“I have no interest in potential suitors for my daughter who refuse to acknowledge and walk in the reality of male headship. More importantly, I have striven to instill this same commitment in my daughter” (p. 101)

Courtship

“Young men should ask a father‘s permission before they begin the courtship process, not after they have completed it” (p. 108, emphasis added)

The importance of the marriage relationship

“Our children must not come first…Our children‘s security is compromised when they are prioritized over the marriage” (p. 119)

Young men raised amidst a culture of feminized men

“I thought about the thousands of young men in our society who have been raised amidst a culture of weak, godless, unsure, lazy, feminized men. ” (p. 139)

Single young women should spend that time serving God, not pining for boys

“The time will come soon enough when they will be weighed down with the responsibilities of husbands, children, and households that will hinder their ability to give of themselves outside their homes. IN the meantime, let’s call our daughters Godward in their focus and encourage them to keep that focus until a young man comes along with equal or greater focus that will allow them to do more for the King together than either of them could do on their own” (p. 172-173)

That most scarce of commodities: Godly young men

“Currently there appears to be a shortage of godly young men. Church for men reports, ‘The typical U.S. congregation draws an adult crowd that is 61% female, 39% male. This gender gap shows up in all age categories.’ Unfortunately, the trend is getting worse. ‘As many as 90 percent of the boys who are being raised in church will abandon it by their 20th birthday‘” (p. 178)

Every page is chock full of good stuff like this.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

"‘As many as 90 percent of the boys who are being raised in church will abandon it by their 20th birthday‘”

Just terrible!

I'd hate to see what this country will look like in 30 years.

Thanks.

- Steve M.

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