Is this what church is all about?
That is what the religious culture says to us, even if it does so in different words. You need to put on your "Sunday best" to prove you are serious about church. You need to go a church building somewhere where a properly "ordained" cleric is present. You need to sit respectfully and listen to the aforementioned cleric give you his interpretation of a passage of Scripture or a topic. You don't say anything because that is not your place. You of course need to "tithe" to show how serious you are, "giving back to God" by funding the organization that allows you to dress up, show up, shut up, pay up with as little disruption to your life as possible.
I have news for you. When the world looks at followers of Christ, they don't see people who are marked by love for one another, love for God and love for their neighbor. They see "dress up, show up, shut up, pay up". How do I know this? Because like every other Christian I used to be one of those who looked at the world and saw "dress up, show up, shut up, pay up" and now that I am a Christian it seems that the world is more often right about how we view church than the church is.
I have no interest in being part of "dress up, show up, shut up, pay up" and perpetuating that system. It is not being faithful, it is not worshiping or honoring God. It simply acquiescing to the religious culture and perpetuating a false vision to the world that confirms every negative stereotype and damages our witness.