tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6643715.post6450276612079749460..comments2023-06-09T12:46:12.932-04:00Comments on The Voice Of One Crying Out In Suburbia: The vocation of motherhoodArthur Sidohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03848508095612688493noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6643715.post-18376110586936300642011-12-16T10:14:37.961-05:002011-12-16T10:14:37.961-05:00Bean, I definitely think that this is a comformati...Bean, I definitely think that this is a comformation to culture. It is hard to talk about this topic without sounding judgemental but I think it is a crucial conversation to have. My hope is that I can encourage moms, especially newly married women and young mothers, to think outside of the cultural box when it comes to raising kids.Arthur Sidohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03848508095612688493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6643715.post-88615918835545682202011-12-16T09:01:57.844-05:002011-12-16T09:01:57.844-05:00Perhaps it is more that families put themselves un...Perhaps it is more that families put themselves under such pressure to conform. Sometimes I think moms just say that they couldn't stay home all day with their children because it makes it easier to justify working. In all fairness an awful lot of moms would love to be home but out of economic necessity have to work. A whole lot of parents sacrifice their time together working different shifts so that one or the other is always home with the children. <br />Unfortunately often in the church the families who appear to have money are often very respected and those that don't are of little importance in the social side of church, so you can see why some work, work, work, to give the impression that they are successful/important. And on the flip side you have stay at home moms who have a husband with an excellent income who sometimes come across as very smug. I remember volunteering to help with something for the band, I work outside of the home two days a week, the day the moms were meeting was on a day I worked, and I said I couldn't come and the mom I told said to me in a very sneering tone, "Oh, you work?". <br />I had a friend with seven children, she worked as a waitress, and during tax season worked many hours as a tax preparer, and during this time earned her associate degree in nursing, otherwise she was home with her kids, she also home schooled the middle school age children, she and her husband didn't sleep much, money was always tight, but they were a great family, the kids were loved and everyone learned how to pitch in and keep the things going and everyone in that house learned if there is a will there is a way.<br />I guess what I am saying is that we shouldn't make judge each other, we don't know everything about each situation and empathy and compassion goes a lot further than self righteousness.Beanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14484707482492844677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6643715.post-19353955767069323332011-12-15T17:36:17.556-05:002011-12-15T17:36:17.556-05:00Chad, I didn't see that series, thanks for the...Chad, I didn't see that series, thanks for the link!<br /><br />It grieves me as well to hear Christian women who seem afraid of their own children. Like you we feel a little out of place at times in the church.Arthur Sidohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03848508095612688493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6643715.post-52915486228864763292011-12-15T13:06:37.651-05:002011-12-15T13:06:37.651-05:00I saw that video as well and really enjoyed it. I&...I saw that video as well and really enjoyed it. I'm saddened though when I hear women, not just in my workplace, but most depressingly AT CHURCH, telling my wife they could never bear to be home with their kids all day. These are "good, Christian" people, and their attitude is no different than the culture around them. We feel like complete outsiders at church.<br /><br />btw, Rachel had a great series of posts over at Desiring God this summer...http://www.desiringgod.org/blog/authors/rachel-jankovic You may have already seen them, but there you go.Chad Bossnoreply@blogger.com